Being plus sized has
hindered many ladies from enjoying sex as they want to. They usually stick with
a particular sex style; often the missionary style while having sex especially
with a partner “smaller” than them. Many women on the big side report that they
don’t always enjoy sex with men on the slimmer side because they feel
embarassed and self conscious during the act.
They may also worry about how
their size may be in the way of going versatile in bed, like trying other sex
positions like the cowgirl, cowgirl reverse, doggie etc; they often their
weight could crush the guy or their volumptuos ass would get in the way of penetration
which is often a misconception. No matter how heavy you look or feel, you can
have the memorable, mind blowing sex you so desire with the following tips:
#1. Get comfortable with
yourself: most big women
often feel so insecure about being naked with another person, no matter how
often they’ve been told how beautiful or how awesome their body is and so, this
may cause them to contort their body in a particular way on the bed as if they
would somehow appear slimmer, cover their body with duvet or refuse to do
positions that would make them look fatter.
All those things may make you feel
more at ease but it may also suck the fun out of the sex. The process becomes
tedious, makes you feel at ease but definitely not any sexier or desirable and
it may put your partner off more than you think.
To enjoy sex, you have to
understand that you are sexy as you are and although it may be hard to believe,
your partners actually have sex with you because of the way your body looks and
not out of pity; a lot of men love them big. So, love your body and embrace the
sexiness it oozes.
#2. Setting The Mood
Right: now that you’ve
embraced your sexiness, you just have to always have the right sexual
environment. Get firm pilliows; good firm pillows should be every big girl’s
paddy during sex.
Get water-based lubricants and a nice springy surface to do
it on; surfaces (beds) that will have you bouncing back up rather than sinking
in. Once you do all these, you are on your way to having a wonderful
sexperience with your partner.
All you need now is to try out those sex
positions you are afraid to try. These are some of the best sex positions for
plus-sized beauties:
The Missionary Style: this is one of the most laid back sex
positions and could be of the funnest way to have sex. It is as simple as just
lying on your back with your partner on top, yet, it can be a challenge
depending on the difference between you and your partner especially for women
with bulging tummies and really thick thighs.
However, this doesn’t stop you
from having the best missionary sex of your life. Get your firm pillows out and
put them under the small of your back or right under your butt. Draw your knees
up and pull your thighs towards your chest. This opens up your vagina for deep
penetration and gives your partner room for optimal thrusting since your thighs
and tummy are out of the way.
You can stimulate
yourself by putting up a show he might enjoy or reach around to fondle his
testis. Maintaining eye contact with your partner also intensifies the
sexperience.
Cowgirl/Cowgirl
Reverse: when you’re on
top, it gives you even more room for deeper penetration and never ever think
you’re going to crush your partner or suffocate them; you just have to know how
to make it really work.
Put a pillow under your partner’s butt to elevate him
higher and that makes him easier to get down on “it”. As you go up and down,
evenly distribute your weight by planting your hands firmly on the bed instead
of sitting straight up; it gives you lots of control.
And when you get tired
while humping him (this happens even with slimmer women so don’t be afraid),
let your partner hold you still and then do the thrusting from below which can
help you maximise your time on top. You can also ask him to sit at the end of
the bed, near the bedhead .
This will allow you hold on to the bedhead for
support. Straddle him and this way, you can both be able to support your
weight. Once you get really comfortable and figure out how easy it is to be on
top; you can use ther momentum and sheer force of your big ass to thrust down on
your partner, you will always want to be on top.
The “Doggie” Style: the doggie style is one the best sex
positions for big people as the tummy is out of the way and it gives the
partner enough room to work with but if you have really big ass, you may have a
bit of challenge with this style. Rather than be on all fours, place your head
lower than your ass or place a pillow under your belly. This ways pushes your
butt up, opens your vagina and creates more room for deeper penetration. It is
also super comfortable.
